I will be happy when ..... Most of us do this, you can probably add your list of things that have to happen so that you can be happy. Can we change it and just be happy right now?
I believe that we can! What is needed in the first place is that we start paying attention to ourselves. When I sense that I feel stressed or sad or just not OK I ask myself what is wrong. What is it that makes me feel this way?
“Great question to ask ourselves is: What can I do to make you feel happy? This act of kindness and attention is very healing already.”
It is the same thing that parents do when their kids fall and hurt themselves. They provide love and attention and the kids feel instantly better. It works also when we do it for ourselves.
The next step depends on the answer to the question above - "What can I do to make you happy?". Do what you need to do for yourself to be happy. Just make sure that the answer - is coming from your heart, not your head.
It can be a small thing or a bigger change in our lives that our hearts may require. It may very well be totally different from our "I will be happy when" list. The reason for that is that this is a list created by our heads, hence it a list of things that we only think will make us happy. This is also the most common trap. Many people realize this once they achieve the things from their list, but the happiness does not come. So they add new things to the list and so on and so on. It is a never ending story.
Happiness is a feeling and as such can be only understood through our hearths not our heads. We have to stop following the brain in order to achieve happiness. Once we start following our hearts we can feel the difference. Our hearths do not come with never ending lists. Our hearts are humble and loving. Our hearts do not need us to achieve some goal in order to be happy. It is enough that we are on the right path.
Our wise hearths know that it is the journey not the destination that matters. So take your first step and enjoy the journey. I wish you the best of luck.
Peter